Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Don't Tell Me To Love My Body

"And maybe you think that because it’s my body I should love it and that I should think I’m beautiful. That I should somehow ignore all the standards the world imposes on me every single day, standards that make up 'beautiful.' That I should make my own standards, and tell myself that I can just create my own reality. That I should pretend that I can never be judged by the standards of others. Maybe if I just love myself enough, other people will be able to climb into my head and begin adopting my standard of beauty and the world will follow and my formula will be the new standard and I will become The Most Beautiful.

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Stop telling women that we should find ourselves beautiful and that we should love ourselves when you are standing right there, judging us on how our knees look in short skirts and how prominent our boobs are in a sweater and how much makeup we are or are not wearing.

Instead of us working harder on 'love your body' and 'find your inner beauty', the rest of the world should be working harder on 'stop telling women their bodies are a shameful place to live but that if they’re strong enough, they will learn to embrace that shame.'

This is my body. It’s not 'beautiful'. I don’t 'love it'. I don’t have to. I don’t have to have any strong feelings about my body. And whatever feelings I do have are not somehow invalid if they’re not glowing reviews."


— Elyse, Don't Tell Me To Love My Body

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